When Lily was my one and only and life was wild and free, we didn't do schedules. We stayed up late and we slept in until 10, we had lazy days and naps in the car or none at all, we traveled the world and allowed life to be unstructured. And we loved it.
These days, we are becoming schedule people. I make Lily take a nap everyday, Augustine goes to bed at like 7pm, and we wake up at 6:30am. We have weekly playdates, stay at home a good portion of the day, & are signed up for preschool. And we love it.
We have entered the a new way of life and left another one behind. But that doesn't mean one way was wrong & this way is superior. No, it is just different, and it's what we need right now.
The older I get and the longer I live my role as a Mama, the more peace I feel about it all. We were wild and free, and happy. And now we have routines and stability, and we are still happy.
Motherhood is ever-changing but our joy remains constant.
Although there are moments (hours, days) of frustration or burn-out, there is a peace that is building up in my heart as every one of those moments pass.
We are doing okay. It is all okay.
Mothering isn't about which "method" or parenting style is superior, I am learning. It is about the love behind each choice that matters. It's about learning as a family what you need and working to make it happen.
We don't need to figure out what type of mom stereotype we like best and then try to squeeze ourselves into it. We really don't. And we don't need mommy wars or judgement or mom guilt either, while we're at it.
What we need is love.
We can live in love, follow our instincts and trusted advice, ask God for grace and guidance -- and see where that takes us, one day at a time.
What do you think? Sound good?